Hello Ladies! I went on a much needed hiatus after so many disappointing wannabe sugar daddies messed with my self esteem. Now, I'm back and better than ever!
In the past several months I have relocated to beautiful Seattle, landed a new job, and just settled in up here. On my hiatus I chose to STOP searching for a potential sugar daddy.
To be honest, I got frustrated and let down way too many times; I felt like a piece of meat more than half the time, and almost smacked the snot out of more than one individual for trying to grab me. Just because I'm looking for some sugar does not (let me repeat this) NOT give you the right to reach up my skirt or grab my breasts whenever you like. Especially in public places. Get some manners men. Seriously.
So, after the final let down of being told my standards would be met (and getting let down when it came time to receive my allowance) I decided to take a break and relocate.
I now live near the lovely Emerald City; where great food, good drinks, and educated company can be found in a plethora of out of the way places; and the men are intelligent (but not all great looking). I chose to stop searching in the sugar world and just date 'regular' guys for awhile.
This made me realize how much I hate regular dating and I missed sugar dating so much more. At least before the guy reaches up my skirt he'll buy me a drink first. I shoved the guys who tried that with me in the regular world; I'm a lady, but no drink was at hand.
So, here's something else I noticed: The better you dress, the better your odds.
I am lucky enough to live with in a reasonable driving distance of the outlet malls. I shop at Anne Taylor Loft, Kenneth Cole, and Banana Republic. This next bit is the most important: CLEARANCE SECTION for those of you that don't make a lot of money or have extra to spend. The way the clothes lay on you and the cuts and fits are so much better, and whether you're self conscious about your 'pudge' or your small breasts or whatever, there is a store clerk who is all to happy to help.
I am sure there is an argument to be made for Wal-Mart or Target brand clothes, but I can tell you my Emerald Silk shirt with a pair of Goodwill jeans has landed me more second dates than any pair of slacks or smiley face special ever did.
The name brand clothes I go for are generally 'classy casual', which means I can wear the suit to work, take of the jacket and toss on some strappy heels for either dancing or a drinks with a potential sugar daddy. Plus, they make me feel better about myself, and they're nice to touch if he wants to reach over and 'guide me' through the doors of the dinner restaurant.
You don't have to be a twig to turn heads girls, as a woman who was blessed with ample curve of hip and slope of breast, let me tell you I will never be a twig. Ever. You just have to be classy sexy. I don't show ANY cleavage but I do let my shape speak for itself, and I can tell you when I think I look good, I feel good, and that translates to confidence... which can translate to that trip you're considering, that class you want to take, or that rent money you need... Consider spending a few extra bucks on your clothes; it goes a lot father than that low cut shirt ever will.
Adventures of a Sparkling New Sugar Baby
The adventures of a brand new Sugar Baby with helpful tips and hints for others new to the Sugar world.
Thursday, December 13, 2012
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Relaxing, Finally!!
So, as I told you all yesterday I finally found a sugar daddy. Did I mention he was local? No? He is.
Did I also mention that we aren't sleeping together? No? We're not.
On that note, I realized how poor I really was today. Care to know? I just went grocery shopping for the first time in FIVE MONTHS. I was living off the last of the pasta and whatever frozen remnants could be found in the depths of my freezer.
I had some canned corn left, and one can of green beans that I found covered in dust hidden in the recesses of the cupboards (read top shelf, I'm short).
I went to one store, stocked up on pasta, canned foods, meat(!), juice, and other various herbs and spices. Then I went to my FAVORITE organic whole food store, one that I have been passing on the road and had to turn my face from, and bought FRESH FRUIT and FRESH VEGGIES! OMG! I am sitting here munching on a tuna fish sandwich on sprouted grain bread, terra vegetable chips, and a glass of oragnic oj.
I am in heaven. And it cost my SD pennies (to him). My first allowance, and my life is so much better. ^.^
I think I might get my nails done this Sunday, and after class go get a facial and my hair done. -sigh- THIS is why I became a sugar baby. ;-P
Did I also mention that we aren't sleeping together? No? We're not.
On that note, I realized how poor I really was today. Care to know? I just went grocery shopping for the first time in FIVE MONTHS. I was living off the last of the pasta and whatever frozen remnants could be found in the depths of my freezer.
I had some canned corn left, and one can of green beans that I found covered in dust hidden in the recesses of the cupboards (read top shelf, I'm short).
I went to one store, stocked up on pasta, canned foods, meat(!), juice, and other various herbs and spices. Then I went to my FAVORITE organic whole food store, one that I have been passing on the road and had to turn my face from, and bought FRESH FRUIT and FRESH VEGGIES! OMG! I am sitting here munching on a tuna fish sandwich on sprouted grain bread, terra vegetable chips, and a glass of oragnic oj.
I am in heaven. And it cost my SD pennies (to him). My first allowance, and my life is so much better. ^.^
I think I might get my nails done this Sunday, and after class go get a facial and my hair done. -sigh- THIS is why I became a sugar baby. ;-P
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Brand New Sugar Daddy... is the hunt over?
Hello Ladies and Gents!
After many trials, tribulations, douche bags, and horny dogs; I have finally found myself a Sugar Daddy.
On our first meeting, we met for lunch and then he took me shopping for a New Years Eve dress (I got another outfit and purse as well).
Tonight we met for dinner, ironed out our deal (three weekends a month, no overnights) and I am pleased to say he has met all my financial requirements. Bills, hair, nails, gifts, SCHOOL, etc.
I am so excited! He gave me money for rent tonight too, and I will see him again on Friday.
To say the least, it has been a pain in the ass finding a guy who doesn't talk about sex from the get go (I call those horny dogs and time wasters). And also finding a guy who was serious (time wasters) and willing to meet.
I didn't settle, and got what I was looking for. I am pretty excited about it all, and ready to get my behind back in school. Needless to say, there is an art form to this whole thing, and I certainly have learned a lot thus far. And, since we are all fairly new I will share with you the things I have learned that tend to be 'no-no's' and red-flags.
1. Do not come out and ask for an allowance in person or in e-mails prior to meeting. This can be considered rude, and if the guy asks in e-mail he is shopping around and wasting your time.
2. Do NOT bring up sex. Ever. This is a turn off for true SD's, and for the crap ones they think it is free reign to talk about it in public, in private, on the phone, etc... and that is generally ALL they will talk about.
3. If he asks for sex before you know each other or discuss an arrangement, he is a male whore (this is called a test drive) or he is no intention of paying you at all.
4. If he wants to sleep with you but is unwilling to take an STD in your presence he doesn't care if you are comfortable or not, and again, will probably not be paying you.
5. If he will not pay for your plane ticket/hotel/incidentals or meet you in your city, he is also NOT THE REAL DEAL.
6. If he will pay for your ticket, room, etc. but will not let you invite a female friend, then he is a fake or worse. Be safe ladies, and if he is serious he cares about your comfort level too, and if he is a real sugar daddy he can afford it.
7. Do not DEMAND anything, always ask, and always be polite (Thank you, you're welcome, please).
8. Sex is always off the table until at least the third date. ALWAYS.
9. Do NOT be afraid to ask for what you want when negotiating. You have to be taken care of, and if things are exclusive, you REALLY NEED TO ASK. If they can't meet all your needs, tell them. Or, if they can't meet all your needs, consider the time they want to spend with you, and then (if you're also ok with lying) consider another SD option.*
10. ALWAYS, ALWAYS smile.
*I am not telling you to lie or cheat, I am telling you that men who make 100-300K, can not always afford your 2-3k a month allowance plus trips shopping, hair appointments, jewelry, etc. Take this into consideration.
Do a breakdown of your bills each month, include gas, groceries, rent, cell phone bill, insurance. Mine are about 1400 a month. Not including school and physical upkeep (waxing, hair, nails, etc.).
Always be realistic and know whether you are willing to sleep with your SD. A lot of them want that, but not all of them.
The most important thing, and I can't stress this enough, is if your gut tells you something is off, walk away. Be safe, not stupid. And be a GOAL digger, not a gold digger. ;-P Having an end game in mind usually makes things a lot easier.
Good luck and I will post again after this weekend. <3
After many trials, tribulations, douche bags, and horny dogs; I have finally found myself a Sugar Daddy.
On our first meeting, we met for lunch and then he took me shopping for a New Years Eve dress (I got another outfit and purse as well).
Tonight we met for dinner, ironed out our deal (three weekends a month, no overnights) and I am pleased to say he has met all my financial requirements. Bills, hair, nails, gifts, SCHOOL, etc.
I am so excited! He gave me money for rent tonight too, and I will see him again on Friday.
To say the least, it has been a pain in the ass finding a guy who doesn't talk about sex from the get go (I call those horny dogs and time wasters). And also finding a guy who was serious (time wasters) and willing to meet.
I didn't settle, and got what I was looking for. I am pretty excited about it all, and ready to get my behind back in school. Needless to say, there is an art form to this whole thing, and I certainly have learned a lot thus far. And, since we are all fairly new I will share with you the things I have learned that tend to be 'no-no's' and red-flags.
1. Do not come out and ask for an allowance in person or in e-mails prior to meeting. This can be considered rude, and if the guy asks in e-mail he is shopping around and wasting your time.
2. Do NOT bring up sex. Ever. This is a turn off for true SD's, and for the crap ones they think it is free reign to talk about it in public, in private, on the phone, etc... and that is generally ALL they will talk about.
3. If he asks for sex before you know each other or discuss an arrangement, he is a male whore (this is called a test drive) or he is no intention of paying you at all.
4. If he wants to sleep with you but is unwilling to take an STD in your presence he doesn't care if you are comfortable or not, and again, will probably not be paying you.
5. If he will not pay for your plane ticket/hotel/incidentals or meet you in your city, he is also NOT THE REAL DEAL.
6. If he will pay for your ticket, room, etc. but will not let you invite a female friend, then he is a fake or worse. Be safe ladies, and if he is serious he cares about your comfort level too, and if he is a real sugar daddy he can afford it.
7. Do not DEMAND anything, always ask, and always be polite (Thank you, you're welcome, please).
8. Sex is always off the table until at least the third date. ALWAYS.
9. Do NOT be afraid to ask for what you want when negotiating. You have to be taken care of, and if things are exclusive, you REALLY NEED TO ASK. If they can't meet all your needs, tell them. Or, if they can't meet all your needs, consider the time they want to spend with you, and then (if you're also ok with lying) consider another SD option.*
10. ALWAYS, ALWAYS smile.
*I am not telling you to lie or cheat, I am telling you that men who make 100-300K, can not always afford your 2-3k a month allowance plus trips shopping, hair appointments, jewelry, etc. Take this into consideration.
Do a breakdown of your bills each month, include gas, groceries, rent, cell phone bill, insurance. Mine are about 1400 a month. Not including school and physical upkeep (waxing, hair, nails, etc.).
Always be realistic and know whether you are willing to sleep with your SD. A lot of them want that, but not all of them.
The most important thing, and I can't stress this enough, is if your gut tells you something is off, walk away. Be safe, not stupid. And be a GOAL digger, not a gold digger. ;-P Having an end game in mind usually makes things a lot easier.
Good luck and I will post again after this weekend. <3
Monday, December 19, 2011
Pre-New Year Sugar... Post Christmas
I have re-signed myself to post-Christmas sugar. Potentially, BEFORE the new year.
I got rid of Indian daddy, I couldn't stand the waffeling, and in the end he turned out to be a time waster. He wanted, for our first meet, for me to stay in his house. I said no, said a nice hotel near his house, he said I made things too complicated and 86'd the idea of us as a sb/sd couple.
Thank God.
In any case, I responded to another man who lives in CA, we shall call him... Daddy Sport. He is experienced in these kinds of relationships, and knows exactly how to treat a lady. He is willing to pay for my schooling, take an STD test, and pay for incidentals TRUE gentleman and Sugar Daddy.
He can't meet until after Christmas either though... so lots of potential meetings the week after Christmas, none before.
Looks like I have to resign myself to working my hellish job for another week. -sigh-
Wish me luck. I'm going to pass out.
I got rid of Indian daddy, I couldn't stand the waffeling, and in the end he turned out to be a time waster. He wanted, for our first meet, for me to stay in his house. I said no, said a nice hotel near his house, he said I made things too complicated and 86'd the idea of us as a sb/sd couple.
Thank God.
In any case, I responded to another man who lives in CA, we shall call him... Daddy Sport. He is experienced in these kinds of relationships, and knows exactly how to treat a lady. He is willing to pay for my schooling, take an STD test, and pay for incidentals TRUE gentleman and Sugar Daddy.
He can't meet until after Christmas either though... so lots of potential meetings the week after Christmas, none before.
Looks like I have to resign myself to working my hellish job for another week. -sigh-
Wish me luck. I'm going to pass out.
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Pay Per Visit, not P4P
So, my Indian daddy is not comfortable with a monthly allowance and he suggested a per meeting type of allowance. I don't know if I am okay with this, but we will see.
Ah, not o mention, he wants to fly me Southwest... they don't even have a first class on their flights. Good grief!
I let him know that sex was off the table for the first few meetings (not certain if I will sleep with him), and he seemed ok with that. He seems kind of submissive, which I can deal with, but flying Southwest... ugh!
My Seattle pot SD is being kind of flaky, he was supposed to come down this weekend, but that hasn't happened, but he is still keeping in contact with me saying he is going to visit. I am wondering if he is becoming a time waster.
I have a couple on the 'possibly meeting them' list, both are local, and one already agreed to a 3200 a month allowance (paying for my schooling too), but not meeting until the 26th.
I would like a SD before the new year rings in, and if the local Portland pot SD works out, then I will be a very happy lady indeed.
If I can get two SD's for the month of December (either Indian daddy or Seattle daddy along with the Portland daddy), that would be much more fabulous!
Any thoughts on this pay per meeting crap?
Ah, not o mention, he wants to fly me Southwest... they don't even have a first class on their flights. Good grief!
I let him know that sex was off the table for the first few meetings (not certain if I will sleep with him), and he seemed ok with that. He seems kind of submissive, which I can deal with, but flying Southwest... ugh!
My Seattle pot SD is being kind of flaky, he was supposed to come down this weekend, but that hasn't happened, but he is still keeping in contact with me saying he is going to visit. I am wondering if he is becoming a time waster.
I have a couple on the 'possibly meeting them' list, both are local, and one already agreed to a 3200 a month allowance (paying for my schooling too), but not meeting until the 26th.
I would like a SD before the new year rings in, and if the local Portland pot SD works out, then I will be a very happy lady indeed.
If I can get two SD's for the month of December (either Indian daddy or Seattle daddy along with the Portland daddy), that would be much more fabulous!
Any thoughts on this pay per meeting crap?
It Twas A Week Before Christmas
Hello Ladies And Gents!
How are thou this fine early Sunday morning? If you're less than fabulous, slap a smile on that face and pretend until it gets better. ;-P
So. It's a week before Christmas (plus a day), and I am talking to a few pot SD's. Here's my rundown:
Two are from SDFM, ones that may be serious; We have, Indian Daddy who lives in California, we haven't talked financials yet, but my aim is for 4500 (with all my Daddies).
Now we have the Worship Daddy, he lives in Virginia, calls me a goddess, and we HAVE talked financials. We are aiming to meet sometime this next week, but it seems more likely that we will meet after the new year. I am going to take a friend with me on this meeting if I fly to him. ^.^
Last, but most definitely not least, is my Seattle Daddy. He and I have been talking for quite awhile, texting and such. and he was supposed to come down Saturday or Sunday, but with the holidays and the fact that he has been out of town awhile, it is looking more like Monday or so. He is the one I have enjoyed talking to the most, and the one I am seriously hoping to have as my Christmas present. ^.^
It has been five months since the beginning of my search, I've been on a few Sugar dates (more than a few) and I have had the gamut (as you all know about). I am ready for some steady Sugar. I would certainly love to quit my job and get back to into school.
Wish me luck Sugars. ;-P Love ya all!
How are thou this fine early Sunday morning? If you're less than fabulous, slap a smile on that face and pretend until it gets better. ;-P
So. It's a week before Christmas (plus a day), and I am talking to a few pot SD's. Here's my rundown:
Two are from SDFM, ones that may be serious; We have, Indian Daddy who lives in California, we haven't talked financials yet, but my aim is for 4500 (with all my Daddies).
Now we have the Worship Daddy, he lives in Virginia, calls me a goddess, and we HAVE talked financials. We are aiming to meet sometime this next week, but it seems more likely that we will meet after the new year. I am going to take a friend with me on this meeting if I fly to him. ^.^
Last, but most definitely not least, is my Seattle Daddy. He and I have been talking for quite awhile, texting and such. and he was supposed to come down Saturday or Sunday, but with the holidays and the fact that he has been out of town awhile, it is looking more like Monday or so. He is the one I have enjoyed talking to the most, and the one I am seriously hoping to have as my Christmas present. ^.^
It has been five months since the beginning of my search, I've been on a few Sugar dates (more than a few) and I have had the gamut (as you all know about). I am ready for some steady Sugar. I would certainly love to quit my job and get back to into school.
Wish me luck Sugars. ;-P Love ya all!
Friday, December 16, 2011
Trying a New Site
Hey Ladies (and gents)! Hope your holidays are going smoothly. Mine are just going. Had some hard hits this week, but I've also got enough pots on the stove in my life to help even things out possibly.
I have made a new long distance friend via this blog (I'm gonna call her Cinnamon Sugar, you know who you are gorgeous gal) and she opened up my eyes to a few different possibilities other than the SA website, and lets face it, some new realities.
I am still fairly new to this game, and she has a SD, not a pot Sd, but the real deal. She told me about another site I had forgotten about: Sugardaddyforme.com I've joined, and the blow offs, liars, and creeps are all there, but the possibility to find a sugar arrangement is a lot better there vs SA. I have been on SA for months, MONTHS. I know they say finding a sugar arrangement takes time, but I'm barely getting emails anymore.
Any way, I went back to SDFM and I have had some interesting conversations, a lot of guys on there want you to take off you clothes on the IM chat (it has access to your video camera and mic too), and I am not okay with that. It seems the quality of men looking for sugar is a bit lower there, but the potential is a lot higher.
Hell, I spoke with one pot SD this afternoon who's a lawyer in NY (biggest sugar pot in the US as far as I'm concerned), and we made tentative plans for him to come and visit me the day after Christmas.
I also spoke with a man on the phone who did nothing but talk about himself the ENTIRE time, and when push came to shove the screw ball wanted me to 'compete' with other gals he's already fucking and send a naughty photo. I told him I liked NOT having an STD.
I had yet another who wouldn't go get an STD test before we slept together, I told him no test, no sex.
Fact is ya all, a real sugar daddy will do what it takes to make you comfortable too. If thats getting an STD test, dating for a week or three, or just flying in a friend with you (if you fly to him) HE WILL DO IT.
My rule for kissing pot SD good bye: If my gut says uh oh, he's a no-no.
Remember this ladies and gents: Sugar goes both ways. You have a lot of wonderful things to offer these people, whether it is your looks, conversation, laughter, sex, etc. You get to call the shots too and don't take any bull shit or degrading comments from a guy (or gal) just because they're giving you cash. Being paid doesn't mean they own you.
;-P Keep your chins up and know you're beautiful regardless of what the males in the sugar world say.
I have made a new long distance friend via this blog (I'm gonna call her Cinnamon Sugar, you know who you are gorgeous gal) and she opened up my eyes to a few different possibilities other than the SA website, and lets face it, some new realities.
I am still fairly new to this game, and she has a SD, not a pot Sd, but the real deal. She told me about another site I had forgotten about: Sugardaddyforme.com I've joined, and the blow offs, liars, and creeps are all there, but the possibility to find a sugar arrangement is a lot better there vs SA. I have been on SA for months, MONTHS. I know they say finding a sugar arrangement takes time, but I'm barely getting emails anymore.
Any way, I went back to SDFM and I have had some interesting conversations, a lot of guys on there want you to take off you clothes on the IM chat (it has access to your video camera and mic too), and I am not okay with that. It seems the quality of men looking for sugar is a bit lower there, but the potential is a lot higher.
Hell, I spoke with one pot SD this afternoon who's a lawyer in NY (biggest sugar pot in the US as far as I'm concerned), and we made tentative plans for him to come and visit me the day after Christmas.
I also spoke with a man on the phone who did nothing but talk about himself the ENTIRE time, and when push came to shove the screw ball wanted me to 'compete' with other gals he's already fucking and send a naughty photo. I told him I liked NOT having an STD.
I had yet another who wouldn't go get an STD test before we slept together, I told him no test, no sex.
Fact is ya all, a real sugar daddy will do what it takes to make you comfortable too. If thats getting an STD test, dating for a week or three, or just flying in a friend with you (if you fly to him) HE WILL DO IT.
My rule for kissing pot SD good bye: If my gut says uh oh, he's a no-no.
Remember this ladies and gents: Sugar goes both ways. You have a lot of wonderful things to offer these people, whether it is your looks, conversation, laughter, sex, etc. You get to call the shots too and don't take any bull shit or degrading comments from a guy (or gal) just because they're giving you cash. Being paid doesn't mean they own you.
;-P Keep your chins up and know you're beautiful regardless of what the males in the sugar world say.
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