Pre-New Year Sugar... Post Christmas

I have re-signed myself to post-Christmas sugar.  Potentially, BEFORE the new year.

I got rid of Indian daddy, I couldn't stand the waffeling, and in the end he turned out to be a time waster.  He wanted, for our first meet, for me to stay in his house.    I said no, said a nice hotel near his house, he said I made things too complicated and 86'd the idea of us as a sb/sd couple.

Thank God.

In any case, I responded to another man who lives in CA, we shall call him... Daddy Sport.  He is experienced in these kinds of relationships, and knows exactly how to treat a lady.  He is willing to pay for my schooling, take an STD test, and pay for incidentals   TRUE gentleman and Sugar Daddy.

He can't meet until after Christmas either though... so lots of potential meetings the week after Christmas, none before.

Looks like I have to resign myself to working my hellish job for another week.  -sigh-

Wish me luck.  I'm going to pass out.

Pay Per Visit, not P4P

So, my Indian daddy is not comfortable with a monthly allowance and he suggested a per meeting type of allowance.  I don't know if I am okay with this, but we will see.

Ah, not o mention, he wants to fly me Southwest... they don't even have a first class on their flights.  Good grief!

I let him know that sex was off the table for the first few meetings (not certain if I will sleep with him), and he seemed ok with that.  He seems kind of submissive, which I can deal with, but flying Southwest... ugh!

My Seattle pot SD is being kind of flaky, he was supposed to come down this weekend, but that hasn't happened, but he is still keeping in contact with me saying  he is going to visit.  I am wondering if he is becoming a time waster.

I have a couple on the 'possibly meeting them' list, both are local, and one already agreed to a 3200 a month allowance (paying for my schooling too), but not meeting until the 26th.

I would like a SD before the new year rings in, and if the local Portland pot SD works out, then I will be a very happy lady indeed.

If I can get two SD's for the month of December (either Indian daddy or Seattle daddy along with the Portland daddy), that would be much more fabulous!

Any thoughts on this pay per meeting crap?

It Twas A Week Before Christmas

Hello Ladies And Gents!  

How are thou this fine early Sunday morning?   If you're less than fabulous, slap a smile on that face and pretend until it gets better. ;-P

So.  It's a week before Christmas (plus a day), and I am talking to a few pot SD's.  Here's my rundown:

Two are from SDFM, ones that may be serious;  We have, Indian Daddy who lives in California, we haven't talked financials yet, but my aim is for 4500 (with all my Daddies).  

Now we have the Worship Daddy, he lives in Virginia, calls me a goddess, and we HAVE talked financials.  We are aiming to meet sometime this next week, but it seems more likely that we will meet after the new year.  I am going to take a friend with me on this meeting if I fly to him.  ^.^

 Last, but most definitely not least, is my Seattle Daddy.  He and I have been talking for quite awhile, texting and such. and he was supposed to come down Saturday or Sunday, but with the holidays and the fact that he has been out of town awhile, it is looking more like Monday or so.  He is the one I have enjoyed talking to the most, and the one I am seriously hoping to have as my Christmas present. ^.^

It has been five months since the beginning of my search, I've been on a few Sugar dates (more than a few) and I have had the gamut (as you all know about).  I am ready for some steady Sugar. I would certainly love to quit my job and get back to into school.  

Wish me luck Sugars.  ;-P  Love ya all!

Trying a New Site

Hey Ladies (and gents)!  Hope your holidays are going smoothly.  Mine are just going.  Had some hard hits this week, but I've also got enough pots on the stove in my life to help even things out possibly.

I have made a new long distance friend via this blog (I'm gonna call her Cinnamon Sugar, you know who you are gorgeous gal) and she opened up my eyes to a few different possibilities other than the SA website, and lets face it, some new realities.

 I am still fairly new to this game, and she has a SD, not a pot Sd, but the real deal.  She told me about another site I had forgotten about: Sugardaddyforme.com  I've joined, and the blow offs, liars, and creeps are all there, but the possibility to find a sugar arrangement is a lot better there vs SA.  I have been on SA for months, MONTHS.  I know they say finding a sugar arrangement takes time, but I'm barely getting emails anymore.

Any way, I went back to SDFM and I have had some interesting conversations, a lot of guys on there want you to take off you clothes on the IM chat (it has access to your video camera and mic too), and I am not okay with that.  It seems the quality of men looking for sugar is a bit lower there, but the potential is a lot higher.

Hell, I spoke with one pot SD this afternoon who's a lawyer in NY (biggest sugar pot in the US as far as I'm concerned), and we made tentative plans for him to come and visit me the day after Christmas.  

I also spoke with a man on the phone who did nothing but talk about himself the ENTIRE time, and when push came to shove the screw ball wanted me to 'compete' with other gals he's already fucking and send a naughty photo.  I told him I liked NOT having an STD.

I had yet another who wouldn't go get an STD test before we slept together, I told him no test, no sex.

Fact is ya all, a real sugar daddy will do what it takes to make you comfortable too.  If thats getting an STD test, dating for a week or three, or just flying in a friend with you (if you fly to him) HE WILL DO IT.

My rule for kissing pot SD good bye:  If my gut says uh oh, he's a no-no.  

Remember this ladies and gents:  Sugar goes both ways. You have a lot of wonderful things to offer these people, whether it is your looks, conversation, laughter, sex, etc.  You get to call the shots too and don't take any bull shit or degrading comments from a guy (or gal) just because they're giving you cash.  Being paid doesn't mean they own you.

;-P   Keep your chins up and know you're beautiful regardless of what the males in the sugar world say.

It's Been Awhile! Did out ya Miss Me!? ;-P

Hey Ya'll!  So, it's been awhile.  I've been busy with work, meeting pot SD's and well... my personal life.  Due to some things happening in my personal life (no man troubles thank the lord), I had to take a break but, I AM BACK!

So, where did we leave off... Hmmmm.  Red coach purse? Yes!  Fabulous!

So, since Mr.Texas-Upnorth was kind enough to hand me $300 in cash on our first (and last) meeting, I have met with a few other potential SD's.  And I even found a temp one in a very odd place: OKCupid.  Yeah. Right!?

He owns a web design company and we dated for a bit, he paid for everything (except my bills) but I got a free laptop out of the deal.  In the end, it just wasn't meant to be.  Ah Cest La Vie!!

In any case, since him I have met with only one other pot SD, and we had a great time or so I thought, and now all he does is play WWF with me.  We even made a silly bet, and I won, so he backed out on the deal.  -sigh-   I swear ya'll, these men are flakier than a box a of frosted flakes.

I have spoken to four more or so on the phone, via text, e-mail, etc.  and meets never came of them.  Silly, but true.  I knew one was just stringing me along and had no intention of following through, but I figured why not put all my cards (wants) on the table and if he's the real deal, he will either put up or shut up.  He shut up.

Next!

Basically I have been getting the run around from a lot of pot SD's and I think it *could* be me, but I think it also has a lot to do with the men on SA not knowing exactly what they want or how to go about it. strange, but true (or seemingly strange).  As a new SB I bought the book that accompanies the site and did my homework.  Why haven't they?

We are not hookers!  I am tired of men thinking they get a 'test drive' before an arrangement has been made or I am comfortable, they are paying for the girlfriend experience with out the hassle, and just like any other relationship both people have to get comfortable before sex happens.

I had one pot SD straight up tell me he wanted me to slap on a strap on and 'do him with it'.  I said good bye quite quickly.  We hadn't even MET yet.

Here is my point ladies (and men): KNOW YOUR OWN SELF WORTH.

I work full time and have other things in life that take up my time and cost me money, but no matter how tight my bills get I am not going to 'put up' with some kinky douche who thinks that just because he slides a hundred across the table he gets to boss me around.  He can lick my boots!

On second thought, maybe not... he might think it's foreplay.  ;-P

Love ya sugars!

Answers As to What I Look Like

So, I've gotten some questions and comments as to what I look like.  Am I Asian? Am I black?  I'm not blonde? etc.

Since I am lazy and slightly rushed for time I thought I would address those questions in a post.

I am 5'5" with long loosely curly and unruly brown hair that is an inch below my shoulders in the front, and a little longer (and curlier) in the back.  I wear dark rimmed glasses, have straightish white teeth and a killer smile.

My body type is not what is considered 'attractive' to the standards, it was en-vogue when Marilynn Monroe was a sex kitten, and pin up girls were en-vogue; a true and natural hour glass figure.

I have a natural 32 F chest (yes, the letter after E), I have hips that are meant to bear children and cause me to wear a size ten.  I have my pants tailored to close the embarrassing 'panty showing' gap you get in pants that require more room for that.

My feet are between a 7.5 and 8.5, and I don't have perfect porcelain or blemish free skin.  In fact I have dark circles under my eyes and wear makeup (like nearly every SB out there) to conceal them.

As far as coloring, I look like a mix between Italian, Greek, and Jewish heritages when, in fact, I am Mexican, Native American, and French.

I have tattoos around both wrists and on both forearms, as well as piece that covers my entire back and a small one three inches below my belly button.

My eyes are the color of melted milk chocolate in sunlight, and my lashes are thick and full and black.  My cheek bones are not high and my ears do NOT stick out (yet).

I am average height and considered more 'cute' or 'pretty' than stunning or gorgeous.

I work my ass off to find pot SD's who are interested in me.  I am charming, down to earth, drug free, and no non-sense. I fill the niche I fit in, and I don't mind being in that niche.

I love who I am and if the pot sugar daddy doesn't, he can admire my firm round apple bottom ass as I walk away in my bright red stilettos!

Quick Update, More Ideas, and Being Up Front

Hey Sparklers and Veterans alike!!


SoooOOOoooo, last time I posted I had a meeting with a new pot SD.... it didn't go well. :-/  Let's start there.

I accidentally called this pot SD (we will call him Glasses from now on), I had been meaning to call a gal pal to see if she wanted to go out for a bite and a drink, but I mis-dialed.  I asked him out for the night instead, he seemed down to meet, and we agreed on two hours from that time (8:09 pm, yeah I'm weird like that).  

So, I rushed home to change and make myself as cute as I could possibly be in thirty-five minutes (w/ dinner tossed in).  I tried on ten different outfits, and finally settled on a large shirt with a cute little vest, black leggings and black boots with a neat design.  Super cute.

He said he would call me before he left, or text, I got neither.  I was thinking, "Hmmmm. What's going on here?", I gave him a call and left a couple messages on my way downtown.  I sent a couple texts too, to let him know I was nearly there or there.

The place we chose to meet is an upscale martini bar (I know, alcohol bad, tsk tsk) in the nicer part of downtown (this is important for later).

I didn't see him, so I ordered a drink (strawberry mojito = tall glass, easy to nurse) and sat at the main public table in the center of the bar.

I made small talk with a nice older couple, sipped, checked my phone... older couple left... and two tall and very attractive gentlemen take the seats across from me.

The gentlemen (I'll call them, "Cousin A and B") were very friendly, sweet, kind and funny.  Finally Cousin A decides to ask me if I was there with anybody, I mention I had a blind date, at this point (30 minutes after he should have been there) I send a text stating, "You stood me up, Nice. Have a good one."

I continue talking to the Cousins and they invite me to a different place for dinner, and I don't agree to nor decline the invitation.

Glasses finally shows up, an HOUR LATER!!!!  He walks in the door in dark jeans and dark shoes and a ratty gross t-shirt.  I duck behind the cousins, and they don't see him until after the third time of my pointing him out.

Cousin A tells me to just be honest with him and tell him I am not interested.  So, I figure that I have nothing to lose, the conversation goes as follows:

"Hi.  I'm  _____.  Really, is that what you're wearing?"

Glasses, "I just got off work."

"And? You work from home, right?"

"Yeah."

"Look. I just got off work too, and this took me thirty minutes tops to put together and I ate dinner in that time too, plus I had to drive home first.  And you couldn't be bothered to put on a clean shirt?  Really?!?  I have to be honest.  Based on what you're wearing, the fact that you were late, the fact that you didn't call, and some of the other previous comments you made; I am not interested.  So, thank you, but no thank you.  I am going to finish my drink and leave."

Glasses, "Can I come over and sit down and talk at least?"

"Look. I'm not interested.  Have a good night."

And we parted ways.  Needless to say he was a younger pot SD, but I felt that any man who can't be bothered to put on a nice shirt AND shave, is probably one that can't be bothered with me.  Show some class.


 As Brandon states in his book, Sugar Baby doesn't want a Sugar Daddy who doesn't take care of himself.  Bill Gates got a stylist, and YOU CAN TOO!!


Ok. That being said, I met with another pot SD in an area a bit father from me, I have a nice gift (which I will show you a photo of), and he has been a complete gentleman. He paid for travel (including hotel and taxi, etc), and meals as well.   He is very sweet, kind, a cordial.  And Funny!

I also have another meeting in San Francisco with another pot SD who I have only spoken to on the phone.... And also another meeting with a pot SD at the end of the month...  things are looking up after a few bad fits and starts, but I think we just have to hang in there ladies (and gents, for you males out there).







I can't post the picture, but cherry red coach purse, new fancy undies, and some sweet godiva chocolate.... Thank you daddy.  ;-P

Flakes, Fakes, and Quick Escapes

So, I haven't had the pleasure of a fake yet, just the need for a quick escape.

In my previous posts I've stated that you should have lots of your friends call you on Sugar dates until you are comfortable with your new pot SD for them not to.  These calls serve a dual purpose.

If you meet a scary, creepy, fake, or sleazy pot SD, you can use your friends as a quick excuse to escape.

My biggest advice is this ladies: USE YOUR GUT.  If something doesn't feel right, cancel or excuse yourself and sneak out the back or just be very upfront about it.

Never EVER drink on a first meeting with a pot SD, if he can only meet in the evenings and drinks are involved choose something low alcohol or arrive early and ask the wait staff to always make yours a virgin.  This way you can keep up appearances and stick through the date (if you are indeed trying to make it to the end just to go home and never see him again), and your pot SD (or non pot SD) be any the wiser.

OR, you can simply order a soda or other flavored beverage.

If you MUST drink, order one and sip it slowly through the evening. I've done this.  By the time the date was over I still had nearly half a mojito left, much to the creepy pot SD's disappointment.

I always arrive early, scope out potential exits, have friends call me several times and have a back up plan.  I never let the pot SD pick me up, but always meet them at the location and have enough fare for a cab.  Never EVER go on a sugar date (first,second ,or third; unless by the third you really trust them) with out a fully charged cell phone and charger in your purse.

If your charger doesn't fit in your purse, there are little black boxes that are transportable chargers for many different models of cell phones.  Check your local carrier.

I don't want to sound like a downer, but I do think women take their safety lightly.  That being said, let's talk about sex...

I don't care how much you trust your new daddy, go get tested together for STD's.  A lot of powerful men think they're "bullet proof" or invincible simply because they have power and money.  I can NOT stress CURRENT STD tests enough.

Go together as a 'date' before you sleep together.  If your daddy is serious about you, he won't mind how careful you're being.  If he's a REAL SD, he won't want to take you for a 'test drive' (sleep with you before you know enough about one another to see if you are seeking the same things from an arrangement) before these tests are done or you're comfortable.

You don't want to end up with herpes or HIV just because some man offered to pay your bills for a year.  Sugar doesn't last forever, but STD's can last a lifetime.

Stay safe ladies.  Much love!

---> My new pot SD had to reschedule the meeting due to food poisoning. :-(  I'll keep ya all up to date. ^.^

Frustration Sets In

So, it has been a little while, perhaps three weeks, since I joined SeekingArrangement.com and, though at first it seemed very promising, I met one creeper, three flakes, and one guy who wanted to take me for a 'test drive' before he was willing to pony up an allowance or be my SD.  UGH!


It seems that things are not what they used to be in the Sugar world.  I know I don't look a certain way, and I sure as heck am not getting any younger, but seriously!  The lack of responses, replies, and flakes that are out there sometimes seems like an insurmountable number.

Yes, ladies, I know the odds are against us, but this seems rather ridiculous. Psh.

 I have decided to adopt the approach of leaving my profile to 'Open/Negotiable', and finding a few lower #'d  SD's, than one high one who doesn't seem to exist.  I had hoped for something exclusive with an older gentlemen (and I do love older men), but fate or luck or whatever she is doesn't seem to be with me on this decision. EAT ME FATE!

On another, happier note, I have a coffee/lunch date with a pot SD tomorrow at noon, who is local.  Hooray!  Though I don't think he believes in allowances, maybe he'll pay my bills and help me move into a better apartment.

Here's hoping, chicas!

Sorry it has been so long since I've posted, I have been terribly busy.  :-/  But I do respond to e-mails!

Slow Going If You Aren't Blonde

So, I am NOT blonde, or asian, or ethnically special in any way.  Doesn't mean I'm not hot or funny or smart.

I'm also not thin as a twig, sharped like Barbie (before she got her make over), ripped like a body builder, or air brushed.  Doesn't mean I'm not sexy, cute, and fashionable.

I do not have perfect skin, hair, or nails.  Doesn't mean my hair isn't long, my nails aren't pretty, and my skin doesn't enjoy the best facials and products money can buy.

My point is this:  In order to get a Sugar Daddy you don't have to look like a plasticized and airbrushed version of who you are. 

I get plenty of responses on my profile but I have certain expectations (just as in normal dating) that I wish to be met before agreeing to meet in person, and even AFTER we meet in person I have expectations.

I could have had a few SD's by now if I was okay with creeps, false promises, and crawling into bed right away. 

I am not saying it isn't difficult to find a pot SD that you think you might have something in common with, and even then if you do have chemistry he could choose a DIFFERENT sugar baby over you.  This happened to me too.

I understand getting down about not finding the 'right' Sugar Daddy right away (or mommy, even), but don't give up y'all, cause there's someone for EVERYONE out there.

And... if you need a travel buddy to feel safe and meet a pot, I'll be your buddy if you'll be mine.  ^.^

Sugar... NOT SPLENDA!

So, I have had an uproarously busy last couple of days, I met TWO pot SD's in one day.  The one from out of state (who was so sexy... I had to take a moment there), and then another local guy who was a bit younger (34).

I told you all about the trip out of state, so I will tell you about this second guy.

I got home, looked around my apartment, and sat on my bed to check to see if I had an e-mails from pot SD's and then started e-mailing my tail off.  During that time a local SD (this guy lives 20 min away from me) sent me his phone number and asked me to call him.  I saw no reason not to, other than the fact that is was MIDNIGHT!

We talked for awhile, and after about twenty minutes he asked me to meet him.

At.  His. House.

So, being a dare devil, a kind of nut (thought not a wall nut, cause their boring, ha!), and not thinking as clearly as I ought to have been due to lack of sleep: I got in my car (with my dogs) and drove over to meet him.  He lives in the BEST part of town, in a freaking mansion!! 7 bedrooms, sauna, 6 bath, massive kitchen with marble countertops, three stories... seriously... woah.  I work in real estate and if I didn't I might have wet myself. 

I digress... anyways!  I go inside, and he is fairly good looking (I'm in sweats and a v-neck t-shirt = my jammies).  We start discussing SB/SD relationships.  And he flat out tells me that he thinks that talking about money up front in a regards to a relationship is a turn off.  SPANKING NEW SD. DING! DING! DING! 

I laugh it off and we have a friendly debate where he thinks, "The giving should develope naturally."  My comment being this:  In a sugar realtionship, everything is up front and agreed to so as not to cause the complications, emotional or otherwise.

We talked for awhile more, and then he said there was no way he could commit to something without sleeping with a girl first, because what if it wasn't good.... basically he wanted to get laid, and I wasn't havin it.  I called his marble counters ugly, laughed, said good night and left after he told me I ought to seek out an older 'more expereinced' SD... YA THINK!?!?!?

This Sugar isn't free, and unless your dick is made of fucking holy wishes and gold.... nope, not even then.

Stupid new Splenda Daddies.  I'm not giving you the milk before you buy the cow!!

Oh... I wore my knife (very intimidating black heavy thing) on my sweats and put it on the counter next to me where he could see it too.  Also texted my friends his address.

No Splenda here.... just sleep deprivation.

Possibly Sugar... Possibly Not :/

Hey ya all!  So, as you know, I flew to meet a pot SD for the first time in his hometown.  I took the following precautions before I left:

1.I called the airline to confirm my ticket.  This is not hard to do but it takes about twenty minutes of your time, but worth it to make sure the ticket is round trip.

2. I called the hotel to confirm my reservation and to also check for the envelope that was to contain my cab and hotel fare.

3. I took a cab to the hotel, and had them change my name so he wouldn't know which room out of the 1000 or so they had there, I was in.

4. I made sure I had at least three different friends agree to call me during the meeting.  Each one set to call me twice at different times.

5. During the meeting, after breakfast and before the airport, I took down his license plate number (with out his knowledge) and sent it to said friends.  ^.^

6. I kept my phone charger and cold hard cash on hand in case of an emergency.

7. I didn't take my best shoes or clothes, just in case things went south... men are easy, but a nice pair of heels is hard to find.  ^.^



Now, on to the good stuff!

We met for breakfast and talked for a little while, it was just like any other date with the exception of the question, "Are you new to the Sugar world?" (cstm - chuckling softly to myself).  He was a perfect gentlemen, paid for everything (plane tickets, hotel, cab, etc), kept his hands to himself and... HE WAD GOREGOUS!  He has a great personality, he made me laugh, the conversation was great, we had an interesting second half of the date... no whoopee or anything, but we talked about how things would work and how to safe (sexually) until we trusted one another, etc.

At the end of the date, prior to the airport, he told me he had another meeting with a pot SB on Friday, and that he would call me after.  Once he, 'decided' if I was the right SB for him.

I can't stop thinking about this sexy older man!!  It drove me nuts most of the way home! lol  I do hope he ends up becoming my SD, I wanted to kiss him at the end of the date but I didn't want to be too forward.... so I hugged him instead. ;-P

If he chooses another SB, then I had a good trip and got a little spending money out of the deal.

Sugar, Sugar, Don't Tease....

HEY ALL!!  So, I am off (in a few hours) to go meet a pot SD!  Pretty exciting!!!!  Ticket is at the airport, with my name, round trip, and the hotel is booked.  I don't have a friend to travel with me (unfortunately), but I have plans to be safe.

1. LOTS of Phone Calls from those in my life that know I'm living this life style.
2. Envelope for hotel room, so I can choose any hotel I want.
3. Fake Name given to Front Desk to book the room.
4. Taxi (or Car service) to pick me up and drop me off.

That's about all I can do, including pepper spray and other various things to be as safe as possible with out hijacking my friends lives. ^.^

 Well.  I am off to finish getting ready and take a nap.  I shouldn't have drank with my boss last night.  Huuuuuuung Ovvvveeeerrrrrr.  -  That's another thing Sparklers... if you know you have a meeting with a pot SD, you should stay sober.  Seriously. 

Flying, Meetings, and Nerves

Hey Sugars!!!

  I am supposed to meet a pot SD tomorrow (or today I suppose, since it is 3am my time).  HE is buying the ticket, paying for the room, the car service, and other things as well.  I told him I wanted to bring a friend to ensure my safety and he agreed.  I have a problem with this arrangement... DAMNIT!

I don't have any female friends and the ones I do have live in different states.  I want to keep the sugar lifestyle to myself until I have more of a grip on what I am doing, so I can't be too open about what it is I am doing.  I asked everybody I knew, and all of them have classes or work that they can't miss to come with me.  Unfortunately.  So, I need one of my Sugar Readers to call and make sure I am ok and such, if you would, plus I am having friends here call and check up on me.

 One of the nice things about being cautious is that it makes sure the pot SD knows that I am just as invested as he is in the discretion and seriousness of the arrangement.  Or. I think so.

I think I need more female friends, and I would like to befriend some female sugars and take trips to see them and vice versa.  My boss (who is male) knows that I live this lifestyle (or am starting to, as it were) and he is ok with it, so having a female friend come out to my apartment and talk shop and bond would be oh so nice. ^.^  I do miss girl time, and it seems that I don't have a whole lot of women close to me to spend my time with.  If anybody else out there in sugarland is in this situation I would love to hear from you.  My e-mail is whopond@gmail.com  (yes I am aware that I could get flooded with spam).

  I just want somebody to spend my money with and bond with on a female level.  No matter how kind the sugar daddy, girls can be girls.

  I am nervous about the trip, but I haven't got the itinerary yet, so we will see what happens.  I am trying to figure out what to wear... Jeans? A skirt? Nice slacks? Heels... FOR SURE.  What!?!?

  Wish me luck Sparklers and Veterans alike.  Love you!

Let's Talk About The Most Important Asset you have: YOU!

I wanted to post this while I was thining about it, before I forgot, and before I went to bed because it is THAT important and it isn't some fluffy BS either.  This is straight talk, from me to you, no little fluffy corners either Sugars, sharp edges (and tonge all the way).

Ok, so I haunt the blog (and post there too) on SA, and I surf and look at other SB's profiles.  Ya all are a bunch of negative whiney bitches!

  Remember what I said about farting rainbows and coughing butterflies?  Hop on that train about yourself because if you don't, why would a REAL pot SD want to meet with you if you don't even like you?

You are on SA because you have something to offer these top tier men that no other person in the entire freaking world has: YOU.  If you don't think you're a hot commodity the way you are, then honey, you need to pull your profile and go somewhere else. 

I don't care if your short and fat, tall and flat as board, skinny as wire hanger, or curvier than Marilyn Monroe.  YOU ARE YOU, and somebody on that site will send you an e-mail, more than one somebody, if you post a positive profile.

  THink about all your skills (other than shopping): Can you cook? Can you clean? DO you make up corny jokes? Do you like sex in the shower? Are you good at sex in the shower? Do you knit? Sew? Crochet? Underwater basket weave? 

My point is this, no matter what it is you can do, it is a priceless skill and potential weapon in your arsenal of awesome!! 

  I have tattoos and some tiny scars and I laug so loud during movies it causes other people to laugh too (at me, not with me folks), but I know one man who found that last particularly charming, he wasn't in the Sugar lifestyle, but the point is that there is seriously SOMEBODY who finds you amazing, but you absoultely have to find yourself amazing first. 

Got it?  Good.  No go wipe that bullshit negativity off your profile and start farting rainbows.

To Blog or Not To Blog

Hello Sparklers, VSB, SB, SM and SD's alike!  I hope you are all finding your Saturday well. 

Me?  I'm exhausted.  I just got off work, very tired, but I acheived a lot today!

Came home to an apartment that has become a type of metaphor for my life.  My room-mate moved out and took all his furniture, which was, well, everything.  So, now my place is pretty empty, and I have some more work to do in order to clean it up and move out as well.  Please don't take this as me complaining, because I'm not.  Things could be a lot worse (I've been in worse), and I know that once I get my first paycheck (from my new job) that things will start to look a lot better.

Now that the (seemingly) sad is out of the way, onto the good!!!  I got three (!) responses today, one was some advice that I had asked for on my profile, one was a comment on a possible visit from a pot SD (hoorah) and another was one from an e-mail I sent out last night to pot SD in my area that made me a little too giddy to sleep (last night, at 4am).  I'm going to tell you about the last.

 I read this pot SD's profile and followed all the steps I recommended to you pot SB's out there, and based on the SUBJECT LINE he was excited to respond to me.  It was about one of his interests, (one we have in common) hiking and he seemed genuinely enthused to hear from me.

 Just sayin, it makes a Sparkler SB feel like she has a better chance than 12%.  Ya know??

^.^  Keep your heads up Sparklers and wish me luck.  I WISH YOU ALL LUCK! ^.^

And, what do you think of my updated blog format and photos???

Another tip for Sparklers (That's you New Sugar Babies)!

So, I have gotten 7 emails in the past seven days.  1 (one) email for every day I have been on SeekingArrangement.com  


That, ladies, is A LOT!


  Let me give you this massively helpful tip:  If you are serious, and I mean really serious about finding yourself that perfect SD, you need to spend at least one hour (yes, 60 full minutes) reading, writing, and reviewing (I'll go over this step by step).

 60 minutes EVERY DAY doing the following

Reading: You go through and read every SD's profile you can find that interests you (this doesn't take sixty minutes, most profiles can be read in 10 minutes, and this is reading them twice).

Writing: Once you find a pot SD you like, you DO NOT WINK at them, you click that big fat e-mail button and you come up with something witty as the subject, something that shows your personality, and you write them a 5-10 line email and end it in a positive note (this can take up to 10-15 minutes, it's harder than it sounds).  Something like, "I hope I made you smile." or "Have a sunshiney day!"  Honey, you wanna sound like you fart rainbows and cough butterflies.  These men's lives are stressful and they don't want that negativity in their lives, they get enough at work. DO NOT HIT SEND YET

Reviewing: After you write that sunshiney e-mail, you minimize your window and go back and read his profile, yes a third time.  You are a new SB (Sparkler), and once is NEVER enough.  Then, you review your e-mail and if it sounds good, and I mean you giggle if you wrote a joke or smile, then it's a gem. 

Then, AND ONLY THEN, hit send and watch it flutter off into cyberland.

Let me give you some odds here ladies: Seven days, seven e-mails. I have sent 39 messages, and recieved 7. 

  39-7, that means (for those, like me, that suck at math) a  17% response rate. 

  Yeah, 17 percent.  Not high, at least not really.  And I can tell you that two of those men really wanted an escort, so that lowers the odds to a 12% response rate.  And I met one, so far, and he was a creeper.

  Think about that next time you open your accounts up girls. 

Nothing happens by itself.  You gotta work your Sparkle ladies, cause the sugar doesn't just show up.

Oh... I'm not a blonde supermodel either. 

NO EXCUSES.



Full Time Job While Seeking SD

  I am sure that the entire point of being a SB is to NOT work for some, though this is a nice thought and great for those women, I HAVE to work.  Everybody knows, that no matter how great the relationship, the Sugar ends eventually, and there can be lulls between SD's, which means you (as a SB) are stuck paying your own bills and making ends meet.

  I like contingency plans, so I went out and got myself a job.  I work 40 hours a week (this includes normal weekends), but have Mondays and Tuesdays off, so I would say this limit's my search for conventional Sugar.  I would think the less conventional Sugar Daddies, those looking for something more discreet even (which I am NOT opposed to) would prefer an SB like me, they could write off days they spend with me, as work to their significant others, less suspicion I would think.

 I lost one SD (the previously mentioned NY Daddy) because I got have this job.

I do need to mention at this point that when I set out on my search for an SD that I did not have a job, but I sure as hell wasn't going to turn one down that paid above minimum wage with some small bonuses, especially when my phone was about to get turned off, my car repo'd, and end up on the street.

My point is this: No matter how difficult the search for any one of you SB's pot SD's, keep your chin up and stay positive.  Having a job may force you to re-write your profile, or you can add into your profile that for the "Right Daddy" you will give up your job for that hefty allowance and travel at a moments notice.

But... I do caution you to make sure that pot SD is the real deal, and not quit your job ahead of time just because he promised you diamonds and the home of your dreams, or you might find yourself on the street with too many bridges burned to salvage your situation.

 ;-P  Love you Sugar Community!

Tips For First Dates w/ UNKNOWN SD's

So, I have a few tips for all you Sparkling New Babies like me, things I couldn't find easily online and things I think we should ALL know, most are about protecting the most important asset you bring to the table, YOU:

First of all, Get yourself a google voice account and forward it to your cell phone for maximum privacy, that way if your pot SD turns out to be a creep you can close it and no more problem.  These accounts are capable of texting.

Same goes for an email account, 1 (one) account JUST for sugar daddies that don't want to use the web site (for whatever reason) they found you on.

And, before you leave for you Sugar meeting, tell a friend where you're going and to call you after x amount of time, and if you don't get back to them right away, have them tell somebody.

If you aren't comfortable in the situation, leave it.  These are dates.  If a first date ever did what the SD in my previous post did to me, it would be over so fast his hair would be on fire.  Still, something to be said about being gracious.

So... I look forward to comments and suggestions, and if there's a VSB that would take me under her wing and help me out, I'd be more than happy for the help and suggestions.

First adventure of a Sparkling NEW Sugar Baby

So, ladies and gents, I have decided to become one of the world's smartest women and become a Sugar Baby (SB).

I bought a book that was a companion for a much advertised Sugar website (SeekingArrangement.com).  I read the book, not all the way through yet, but most of it, and did what most of you "veteran" SB's (VSB) have done: Wrote my profile, uploaded my photos, rewrote my profile, decided what I could bring to the table and how much I wanted per month (via allowances, gifts, trips, etc.), and rewrote my profile, and then added this profile to SugarSugar.com as well.  I figured I would cast a wider net and find a few more fish.

I also read up on a lot of the advice from you VSB's and Sugar Daddies (SD), and followed as much of it as possible.  I didn't want to go into this naive and un-cautious.  I did as much research as possible and was entirely honest with myself about what I wanted, who I am, and I what I have to offer.

After doing all that, sending out quite a few e-mails myself, and getting three back (granted it has only been three days, so I think I'm doing damn well if I say so myself), I went through the process of vetting the SD's that contacted me.

The first one turned out be a complete perv... eww.

The Second may still have potential but I also might have scared him off with my straight forward e-mail.  He brought up sex, so I brought up money (this is all in the SA book and on the blogs as being an ok thing to do, but we will see).

The third I met after exchanging a few e-mails and phone numbers (I used my google voice account to keep myself protected).

It seemed, to me, that he was a complete gentleman (on the phone), he congratulated me on getting hired at my new position, met me at a local restaurant in my area, and paid for everything.

 The conversation flowed nicely, I limited myself to one drink to get to know him better and not appear to be an alcoholic (which I'm not), laughed and had a good time.

 He put his hand on my thigh, and I laid mine on top of his to stop it from wandering and because, honestly, his man is a very attractive looking man.

Then... the conversation turned to sex.   So, I suggested taking a walk outside in the outdoor mall area.

Once outside we discussed what each of us was looking for, and I didn't expect (or want to) talk about money on the first date or meeting.  He asked me what I wanted, and I told him I wanted my bills paid for, an allowance, and special gifts and trips (pretty standard, right ladies?), he agreed and we kept walking.

Finally, (I say finally because my sexy red kitten heels were killin' my feet) we found a seat outside and at this point he got quite handsy (strike number one in my book), he tried to push my skirt up my knee, I stopped him gently but firmly, and he smiled and leaned in to kiss me.  Not a bad kisser, not pushy, but not mind blowing; decent. We continued talking after the first kiss (which he told me was mind blowing), and I saw him grab his manhood... can we saw, ew (strike number two)?  There were small children and families walking by the whole time.

We got up and walked some more, and he kept talking about wanting to see me naked and make out in alleyways and such, flattering but... not my style.

We said good evening, agreed to a second meeting on Tuesday afternoon (my day off), and I went home to relax and get ready for work.

The relaxing part wasn't happening yet:

He called me and was pushing to come to over and make out and promised to leave after so I could get some sleep and so on and so forth, I was gentle but firm using every excuse in the book from, "I don't ever invite first dates, whether their sugar or romantic, over or into my home.", to,"If it's exciting now, then the anticipation and excitement will build and be all the better on Tuesday."

After about five or so minutes of this I said to him, "I understand you want to see me tonight, but if you don't want to take things a bit slower and get to know one another better, than I think I'm not the right girl for you." He told me, "I am trying to use power to get my way and I can see that isn't working. I don't want to scare you away."   and we said good evening.

Needless to say, I don't think he's the perfect daddy for me.
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My own comments on this date: REALLY!?!? You think it's ok to try and push a woman you barely knows skirt up in a public place where children are walking by??  Hah! No.

Grabbing your crotch, in public, is NEVER acceptable.  Ever.  If you have to re-adjust, be really freakin discreet about it. Jeesh.

Pushing that hard to come into MY private space when we barely know one another is a serious 'HELL NO!' In my book.

Pushing AFTER I've said no makes me want to poke you in the eye, I don't care how wealthy or powerful you are.